Last week my
little love turned 18 months, which was also a pretty proud day personally,
because I celebrated 18 months of being a breastfeeding mama.
Why is this
important? Because I never really thought I’d get this far, I hoped I would but
who can really say with these things? In any case, in parenting things can get
overwhelming at times, so it’s important to celebrate the small victories and these
little mommy milestones to put things into perspective.
When I first
became a parent I didn’t give a lot of thought to breastfeeding, just assumed I
would do it and it would all work out fine because it’s what nature intended.
Little did I know nature has quite a few curve balls to throw at us, including
but not limited to: cluster feeding, latch problems, supply issues, teething, tongue
tie and mastitis.
Now, I’m one
of the lucky ones, I’ve never had to deal with the last two (so far), but did
have some first-hand experience with the rest. My favourite hurdle was of
course teething. That was a fun one.
So why am I
writing this now? Probably because I feel our breastfeeding journey might be
coming to an end. I was hoping to feed until age two, as recommended by the
World Health Organization, but little one has his own ideas and has been
gradually weaning himself off to the point that we’re down to just one or occasionally
two comfort feeds a night.
I have to
say, I’m glad he’s made that choice for me because I love our booby cuddles and
would’ve hated to take those away from him. I was of course considering tandem
feeding but honestly doubt we will get to that.
Anyway, my
point today is to share some of the things I wish I’d known at the start of my
journey, they would’ve made things a lot easier, and hopefully this can help another
mama who may be going through some of the same. Just to be clear, I’m not a
breastfeeding expert or specialist, and this is all just based on my
experiences.
CLUSTER
FEEDING
My first
experience with this caused me great desperation. Why was my baby going crazy
with his feeds? He would latch on for over an hour and then 10 minutes later be
hungry again, or just be on and off the boob constantly, it was relentless. Was
my milk not filling enough? Was he not having as much as I thought he was? Was
I doing it wrong?
The answer
to all these questions is cluster feeding. It happens, it’s a thing, it’s
perfectly normal, and the one to remember: it’s temporary. In the moment, when
you combine the exhaustion and sleep deprivation, it may seem like it will last
forever and there is no respite, but hang tight, power through. It may be that
baby is getting your milk supply established, or that they’re going through a
growth spurt and need the extra nutrients, either way, it will pass. Just hang
in there.
LATCH
PROBLEMS
You just get
baby close to the boob and they do the rest, right? Not necessarily. Sometimes
you have to help baby get into the right position. When I first started
nursing, it hurt, a lot. I thought it was probably normal to start but little
did I know that my latch was all wrong.
Luckily I
have a very supportive friend (thanks Mrs Potter!) who is an absolute breastfeeding
goddess and was kind enough to come visit and help me correct my latch. She
also taught me how to feed lying down, which was an absolute game changer for
me.
Another
great help were the series of Breastfeeding videos from UNICEF that I came across online. You
can find them here and they give pretty great guidance on how it’s done. My best
advice is don’t suffer in silence, hospitals have Breastfeeding specialists and
latch consultants who can help with this sort of thing, and the sooner you get
it right, the smoother your journey will be.
SUPPLY
ISSUES
Now I kind
of did and kind of didn’t have this. I was producing enough milk to feed my
son, so that was good, but not enough milk to pump and freeze to create a
stash. This was important to me as I wanted my son to keep having his mama’s
milk even when I wasn’t there.
After some
research I tried a few things like pumping straight after a feed, feeding from
one breast while I pumped from the other, and pumping whilst looking at my
sleeping baby or pictures of him to get the let-down flowing.
I also tried galactagogues. If you haven’t heard
about these before, they are foods or herbs that are meant to increase your
milk supply. I had oatmeal for breakfast every morning, tried various brands of
mother’s milk tea (with fennel as the main ingredient), and baked oatmeal cookies
with brewer’s yeast.
It worked. I went from pumping one ounce
a day to getting three and occasionally even six on a good day. I couldn’t say
definitively what it was that worked because I tried it all at once. Could have
been the pumping methods, the galactagogues, or the combination of both of
these.
Now some breastfeeding specialists
don’t believe galactagogues are actually effective, in fact I’m in an online
Breastfeeding support group where any comments about these are deleted by
admin. I was happy to try everything, and whether they actually worked or
simply provided me with a placebo effect, at least I got to have some delicious
cookies during my pumping sessions, so no complaints here! At the end of the
day, no two of us are the same and you have to find what works for you.
TEETHING
This was
brutal, only with the first few teeth though. When Harvey started to cut his first
tooth, which was of course closely followed by a second one, he was obviously
keen to test them out, and so my nipples took the brunt of it. The biting was
painful but when he cut through the skin and started to draw blood, that’s the
only time I’ve considered stopping my breastfeeding journey.
I’m glad I
didn’t though. I got myself some nipple shields to use for a couple days while
my skin healed (which I used with difficulty as he hated them), and gave Harvey
milk from my stash so he wouldn’t have any of the freshly pumped milk (in case
it had traces of blood). I also started saying ‘no biting’ in a stern voice and
taking the breast away, so he would associate the action of biting with
stopping a feed.
Someone
suggested putting on teething gel before feeding and I have to say, this was
some of the best advice I’ve had. It really helped, and in no time, my nipples
had healed, we were off the shields and the biting stopped. He now has seven
teeth total and we happily feed with no biting.
SUPPORT
GROUPS
The UK has
some of the lowest breastfeeding rates in the world, and this is largely
attributed to a lack of support. Personally I found that the support is there
as long as you’re happy to do some digging.
I attended a
breastfeeding group in a local children’s centre and also joined a few support
groups on Facebook: Salisbury Breastfeeding Support Group which was associated with the hospital I gave birth in
and included their nursing specialists amongst the admin, and a few others including Breastfeeding Yummy Mummies, UK Breastfeeding support, Breastfeeding Mamas, and PRIVATE Breastfeeding And Beyond.
Absolute
life saver. No matter the issue, no matter the time of day, there is always
someone at the other end of the keyboard. Some mamas will have gone through the
same or similar and have an answer to your questions, others just like to give
words of encouragement, either way, their comments and advice are always welcome
and appreciated as far as I’m concerned.
So here’s to
my Platinum Boobies! And wherever you are in your journey, know that you are
doing a great job and I wish you the best!
